Expectation of Perfection Shatters Success
It is January 21, 2017. This means I have spent 3 weeks trying to stay motivated to reaching my new years wellness goals.
As I take a closer look at the past three weeks, my first thought is that I screwed up big time.
I wanted to lose weight and get healthier. I haven't lost weight and I don't know if I am healthier. But I invite you to take a closer look with me before I throw in the towel and say forget this bull crap!
I have been working at getting to the bottom of my weight loss challenges. I have battled my weight from the age of 11 when I attended my first Weight Watchers meeting with my mom. This is where I took on the idea that I had a problem with food.
I have been yoyo dieting for the past 44 years! Something is missing here. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to see this!
I am sick and tired of losing the weight and gaining it back. I am a believer that insanity is truly doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
The beginning of the year gave me a clean slate. This presented me with the invitation to finally "get it right". I continued with my eating plan, only to stray off course numerous times. My hope to lose this excess weight follows me constantly and it really hurts when I put that "illegal" food in my mouth. I then soothe the pain with more "illegal" and soul soothing comfort food. Hence, the insanity!
So let's examine this insanity:
I wanted to finally get it right! Well I messed up. Guess what? Big revelation here. I am not perfect. I will never ever get it right. I kept asking myself what I did wrong and what is wrong with me and the answers just kept coming to the surface, only to cause me to feel shame. I am so clear on what I am doing wrong now! I am so sick and tired of looking at what I am and have been doing wrong.
I feel empowered and hopeful as I begin to spend more thoughts and actions towards what I am doing right! There is a lightness and heaviness lifted from me as I look toward this day in my new perspective.
What am I doing right? What is right with me? Wow that feels awesome!
Let's look at a few examples of the difference in thinking and where it will take us...
What I did Wrong Thinking:
I messed up last night and ate, lets just call it big time crap. I cannot do this. I have no willpower. I will never get this right and reach my health goals. I am hungry! Is it lunch time yet?
What am I Doing Right Thinking:
I worked out this morning. I pushed myself despite my imperfect evening. I am sharing my victory as I write this blog! This feels so perfect!
I invite you to begin your journey towards reaching your goals by asking yourself more often...What are you doing right?
WE CAN DO IT! We do not need to be perfect to get their. Success is just one right thought away!